Grief & loss

Understand what grief is and how it helps us process and cope with loss.

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What is grief?

Grief is our body’s natural and emotional response to the loss of someone or something significant to us. Whether it's the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or a big life change, grief is a really important way we cope, make sense of the world, and find hope for the future.

Grief and loss are deeply personal experiences. What may be a devastating loss for you may not be for someone else, and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean your grief is any less valid. Ultimately, how you feel after a loss will be directly related to the meaning or value it holds for you.

It’s common to experience grief after:

Losing our son was an extremely painful part of our lives. At the time, we wondered how we would ever move through the fog of grief and start to see the sun shining again.
Richard

Losing someone or something important to us can result in secondary losses, too.

For example, the main income earner of a household passing away can result in the loss of financial security; the loss of a job can result in the loss of identity; and the loss of caring for a loved one can result in a loss of purpose and connection. This is why you might feel like you’re grieving multiple things at once.

  • Examples of secondary losses
    • Relationships with others
    • Community and social connection
    • Financial stability
    • Identity and purpose
    • Independence
    • Sense of safety and security
    • A dream or future plan
    • Routine and/or other significant life changes.

What does grieving feel like?


While grieving is a natural and helpful process, it is also a really painful experience that can impact us mentally, emotionally, and physically.

The image is titled "Common experiences when grieving" and provides a list of challenges people may face during the grieving process. It includes an icon of a cloud with sun rays peeking out, symbolising hope amid sorrow. The text reads:  "You may find it difficult to:" followed by a bulleted list:  Sleep and eat Manage your usual workload Keep up with daily tasks Take care of your physical health Maintain healthy relationships Or believe you’ll come out the other side A supportive message at the bottom reads: "Even though things might feel overwhelming, uncomfortable, and confusing at times, you’re not alone, and you will find a way to move forward."  The image acknowledges the struggles of grief and offers reassurance, encouraging resilience and hope.

As a society, we don’t often acknowledge just how hard it can be to process the wide range of emotions and physical impacts that can come with grief. This can make you feel alone and like you’re the only one who’s ever felt this way.

Grieving is an experience that nearly all of us will go through at some point in life, and there isn’t a right or wrong way to do it. Wherever you are in your grief journey, it’s important that you’re giving yourself time and permission to fully process your loss.

It’s also important to reach out for support if you feel like your grief is making it hard to go about day-to-day life.


In this topic, you’ll find information and resources that can help you understand:

Help is available.

Grieving isn’t something you have to do alone. You can learn tips for speaking with someone you trust, book an appointment with your GP, or contact Griefline.

If those don’t feel like options for you at the moment, you can contact Lifeline. We're here for you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week via 13 11 14, text, and chat.


Download our grief & loss factsheet.

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